Great news! Whatever age you are - your best age can be NOW! In fact, science has found that people are actually happier from age 50 onward. However, happiness doesn't just happen by default; you need to be proactive and have a positive mindset. Have you been asking yourself lately, “Is this IT? Is this all there is?”
A few years ago on a warm, summer day, after my mother passed away, I organized an estate sale at my parents' large old Spanish home along the coast of Los Angeles. My brothers , sisters and boyfriend helped me label and tag 53 years of furniture, rugs, clothing, books and family heirlooms.
The seeds of people pleasing are planted in childhood and from as far back as I can remember I’ve been quite the people-pleaser. I was brought up with 12 years of Catholic education in a privileged, sheltered, upper-middle class Los Angeles area beach community. There’s something in the Catholic educational system that rewards, reinforces and encourages the image of “the good girl.”
Most everybody has heard about the Butterfly Effect, the notion that a butterfly flapping its wings in Brazil can influence a distant tornado in Texas several weeks later. Scientists have argued the idea that a butterfly could have far a reaching ripple effect on subsequent historic events since the 1890’s. Personally. I’ve definitely felt the effect of one impactful butterfly’s metamorphosis on my life.
Life Purpose is said to be the virtuous expression of your signature strengths. I’ve been told by many people that my signature strength or core genius is connecting people to each other -being a CONDUIT.
What is it about certain trips that make them so life changing? I once heard that if you have a dilemma or need to make an important decision, a change of place or change of geography could be just what you need. It gives you a new perspective and helps you see the situation with fresh, new eyes and ultimately resolve your dilemma.
In 2007, my father, Dr. Connor, who was 92 years old at the time said, “Rita, enjoy this time in your life because people stop listening to you or taking note of what you say when you’re in your 70s and older.” I said, “No – that’s not true, dad.
As I recently celebrated another birthday, I realized there’s something magical about being “a woman of a certain age.” The ups and downs were more extreme and more traumatic in my younger years. Leaving the old world behind can be bittersweet and yet it’s now so satisfying. My thoughts are so much more profound and interesting now!
I recently returned from a five-day conference in Puerto Vallarta where I thoroughly enjoyed myself and I’m now back to work. The conference really got me thinking about all my goals: my one-year plan, my five-year plan, etc. I realized that I’m in the year I had visualized and planned five years ago at another workshop.